Be truthful and trusting Today's
world is beset by conflict,
mistrust and distancing. The need for acceptance is a growing
phenomenon and one that demands attention. People are social
beings who strive to be accepted. It is in their nature to seek
closeness, trust and forgiveness in their relationships yet in
today's world the table has been turned. People of today are
full of mistrust, anxiety and disassociation which makes them
self supportive. Relationships have become strained and families
fractured. You don't have to live a life of dissolution and
loneliness.
Cast out fear and instill confidence It seems no one wants to go
swimming for fear of the sharks. Just because the national news
is filled with crime, murder, mayhem and financial uncertainties
you don't have to allow it to effect your relationships. People
are reluctant to embrace relationships for fear of being hurt,
rejected or being taking advantage of. Confidence is in short
supply because confidence men have corrupted the very core of
decency.
Reinvent yourself By making a few subtle changes in your
demeanor such as how you approach others, conduct and present
yourself you may discover that relationships become valuable
assets. This gives you greater opportunity to build lasting
relationships from smoother daily exchanges. Given years of
observation coupled with fifty years of personal application I
hereby offer you some easy-to-adopt suggestions.
1. Come into their proximity, People are more likely to favor
someone who remembers their discussions and are in agreement as
they stand or sit side by side, rather than facing head on. When
people face each other they literally face off or have a stance
of resistance. Men instinctively take a face-to-face stance of
dominance. Make it a habit to come into your coworkers
proximity, it reduces uneasiness and allows you to enter their
comfort zone. Walking side-by-side while having a discussion
reduces tensions further and allows you to become even closer
connected. If there are issues to be resolved it is best to
discuses matters while walking together not sitting across from
each other.
2. Let them know you care. Remember people's birthday,
anniversary likes and dislikes and any other particulars about
them. Let them know you care about them by sending a note of
gratitude, short phone call or offering your assistance. Most of
all, listen to what they have to say and be available if they
need help.
3. Use Good Judgment. Know when to deal and when to fold. Don't
be a nescience yet be cordially available. People feel
comfortable when they know there is someone they can trust. They
naturally want to be connected to someone they can relate to.
4. Be active not reactive. Activate the relationship by acting
in a manner consistent to your belief's. BE REAL! Do not react
to someone else's conflicting ideas. Simply put yourself in
their shoes and understand and respect their perceptions. 5. Use
the power of scents. I know, this may sound strange but
fragrances are powerful to the emotional sense because it
bypasses much of the brain's thinking process. Think about using
scents to softly introduce positive, natural and uplifting
feelings into your surroundings. Natural aromas introduced into
an environment helps to refresh people, giving them an uplifted
feeling. That's why outlets as diverse as the Rainforest Cafe,
Sahara Vegas Casino, Disney/Epcot Home of the Future and San
Francisco Aquarium have created natural signature scents to
avoid allergic reactions while refreshing those they serve.
Consider adding a light scene with aromas that you are most
comfortable with to your clothing. The odor of
vanilla or lemon
makes the mind think clean while lavender or rose symbolizes
imminence. Lemon vanilla, lavender, and potpourri are Americans'
most -liked scents.
6. Be constructive. Let people know you value their
relationship. People are drawn to other people who exemplify
their root beliefs. Inject cheerfulness into your relationship.
Don't cast a negative shadow; chase the clouds away, be
uplifting and positive.
The workplace is obviously a place of common bonding. Most
people spend more waking hours with coworkers than their
families. Workplace relationships should be kept professional
yet friendly. Do not make the mistake of crossing the line
between a workplace relationship and personal relationship. In
most cases, the workplace is competitive as it encourages
teamwork coupled with a desire to advance. At times
relationships can be strained when two or more people are
jockeying for the same position. Always keep in mind that
everyone is working for a common cause and nobody wins if there
is distension amongst employees.
