 How Are You Behaving in
Front of Your Children
Do
you find yourself doing thing in front of your children that to you
seems to be normal but is not normal to other people.
Quarrelling in front of your
children
Are you quarrelling in front of
your children in different situations such as when you are home, in
the car, when you are shopping or at a restaurant?
You are teaching your children
because you feel and it is alright to vent your feeling out in
public no matter who it hurts.
Hurtful names in front of your
children
Are you calling hurtful names in
front of your children hoping to hurt your mate emotional so they
will know how it feel to get hurt and the children is in the room
will you are doing this.
Later on your children will call
you the same names because they will think that it is acceptable.
Do you find yourself blaming the
other
Do you find yourself blaming your
mate in front of the children because of the difficulties you have
with spending money.
In blaming your mate for what
happening you teach your children to be a victim and to blame others
for what it is happening in their life without taking their
responsibility.
Disappointed in your mate
Do you show that you are
disappointed in your mate in front of your children and verbally or
physically express this in front of your children?
Talking bad in front
Do you find yourself talking bad
saying hurtful thing in front of the children when your mate has
left the room because you feel that it is easier than if your mate
was standing in front for that would create more confrontation.
Throwing things
Do you find when you get upset in
front of your children you throw things at your mate even if it is a
little thing.
Screaming
Are you a person when you get upset
even in front of your children you screaming but you do not realize
that you are screaming?
Being inconsistent
Do you find that you are
inconsistent with things you say and do in front of your children if
yes you are giving a wrong message to your children?
Your children needs guidance that
will carry them in to a better relationship when they grow up and
when you are saying one thing and doing another you leave the
children with a feeling of insecurity.
Scaring your mate
Do you find yourself scaring your
mate with your outburst of anger in front of your children and is
this what you want as an outcome.
This attitude changes your children
history for the future and how they see or believe what a
relationship is about.
Verbally aggressive
Are you verbally aggressive to your
mate in front of your children and they are not so sure how to
behave because they do not know if they are next.
Do you find the way your mate talk
to you triggers feeling in you that you find difficult to control
and your behaviour is affecting your children because most of the
time it is happening in front of them.
Not listening
If you feel that the only way to
get your point across because you do not feel that your mate is
listening to what you have to say screaming in front of your
children is not the way to go because you are teaching them that
about how to conduct themselves in a relationship when they do not
feel heard.
Time out
Know that when you are emotionally
charge you may not be thinking logically of what to say, how to form
the right words to your mate in front of the children so it is
better a time out so both of you can resume the conversation without
the children around.
Conclusion: How you behave
in front of your children affects them in either a positive or
negative way and changes how they perceive the world and how they
will behave in their relationships.
By Francis Hosein Francis is the
owner of
http://trans-formers.com if you want more information on
relationship in your life you can find at:http://www.trans-formers.com/free-relationship-advice.html
|
